Why are we more fulfilled at 30 than at 20?

While we live in a world that seeks to always appear younger, getting older, on the contrary, would make us more fulfilled. This is truly the decade where everything is possible.

According to a 2012 study by Friends Reunited, 33 years old would be the age at which people feel happiest.

So why do we feel more fulfilled at 30 than at 20?

We are more autonomous

At 20, we often still live with our parents a little or intermittently.

At 30, now, we manage ourselves, we don't have to answer to anyone. Being able to come home at the time we want, eat what we want. And no one judges us if we spend our Saturday night slumped on our couch in front of a stupid program on TV.

We dare more

Logically, over the years, we ask ourselves fewer existential questions, we are a little less lost. The focus is on living a little more in the present moment, letting go and worrying less about what can happen, about the future.

We accept each other more

In your thirties, you learn to tame your complexes

We feel better in our bodies, also feeling more comfortable with our sexuality. Even managing to feel sexier.

We feel better in our own shoes

Getting older teaches us to worry less about what others think and to develop more self-confidence.

Because we are less concerned about our image, unlike in our twenties, which is often synonymous with being impressionable and sensitive to what people will say.

We know what is good for us, what suits us.

No more hair experiments of all kinds, no more coloring in almost every shade of the rainbow.

We stay more on the same cut, which we know suits us, as well as staying in the same tones of coloring.

We know better what we want and what we don't want/no longer want

Our experiences allow us to know ourselves better in all aspects of our lives.

In particular, we put our romantic relationships into perspective more.

At 20, when you get dumped, it's the end of the world, you think you'll never get over it.

At 30: we know what we are worth, what we deserve. We no longer let people walk all over us or disrespect us. And consequently, no more room for complaining about a guy who didn't understand our value and who wasn't made for us deep down.

On the other hand, there is the downside of the coin with the pressure from society and family if you still haven't found the right shoe for you after the age of 30.

See my article about this on the blog – “30 and still single: So what?”

We manage our finances better (well normally)

No more fear in your stomach and burning in your cheeks waiting to see if your credit card will go through at the supermarket checkout.

The thirties are often focused on professional and financial success.

Make way for trips that you can finally pay for with your own money.

We save for things other than the latest pair of fashionable shoes, even to the point of being able to invest in property, for example.

We are embarking on new adventures

Professionals: for example: a professional reconversion, becoming self-employed or doing things that correspond more to our deepest aspirations.

But also social : we are trying new activities like yoga or meditation, whereas 5 years ago we would not have imagined embarking on this type of activity.

And also personal : marriage, baby, buying an apartment/house, everything we could dream of 10-15 years ago

We have friends who are like family to us.

In our thirties, we have friendships that have lasted over the years and that we see evolve: seeing our friends pregnant, getting married or even buying their own home, etc.

We prioritized quality over quantity of friends

(Personally, I have known my best friend for 18 years and a very good childhood friend since we were 12)

It's the kind of friendship where even if we don't see each other often, or if we don't take the time to get news from each other with our respective schedules, nothing changes.

The bonds remain stronger than anything, every time we see each other again, it's like we left each other yesterday, everything is the same. (Even thousands of kilometers away like me as an expat in Canada with my French friends).

We are no longer looking for popularity, but for strong and sincere friendships, REAL friendships.

We no longer hesitate to get rid of toxic people around us.

We take much more care of ourselvesi

What makes us happy today is a good massage, or a day at the SPA with friends. We learn to listen to our bodies and we give ourselves more time to pamper ourselves.