The one who thinks no but always says yes

Say " Yes " has almost become automatic, as if it were the expected response. We accept, we commit, often without even thinking about it, while in our heads, it is a " No " crying out for truth. This " Yes " that falls, when in reality, we would have preferred to stay quiet and do what we want, in our corner. It's this feeling of saying yes to a project, a request, or an outing, when our whole body tells us that we prefer to say no, but we can't find the courage to do it.

So, of course, you end up agreeing to go out with your friends even though you have a mountain of work ahead of you. You agree to help out at work even though you know it's going to take you three hours longer than expected. And then you wonder why you got yourself into it...

You know, the worst part is that you do it with all your heart, because you're there for others. You feel like you're doing a service, like you're the person everyone can count on. And frankly, it feels good, doesn't it? To be useful, to be indispensable. But one day, you realize that you said " Yes " so many times you forgot to say " No " to yourself.

It's funny, huh, how to say " No " can be that difficult? Yet, it's a very simple word, made up of two small letters. But, as soon as you say it, you feel like you're going to be a pain, that you're going to lose your status as “good friend”, “great colleague” Or "no one always available". Yet, when you think about it, saying " No ", It's also a way of respecting yourself. It's putting your needs first, without feeling guilty about it.

This is when you realize that learning to say " No " is not an act of malice. It is not because you say " No " That you're being selfish. On the contrary, it's an act of self-love. By refusing something, you allow yourself to honor your time and your needs. It's like setting healthy boundaries.

This no is a small revolution. Because saying it doesn't mean being mean or selfish. It just means you're listening to yourself and realizing that your well-being is as important as everyone else's.

So, if you too are part of this tribe of those who say " Yes " all the time, but who think " No ", know this: the world is not going to fall apart if you learn to set your boundaries. In fact, there's a good chance that others will respect you even more. And honestly, the next time you find yourself saying " Yes " To save face, take a moment and ask yourself: will this really improve my day? Is this what I want? And if the answer is no, then... say so.

Because in the end, every " No " that you allow yourself is a small victory. It's a victory against guilt, against that little voice that tells you that you don't have the right to say no. And with each " No " what you say, you respect yourself a little more, and you leave room for what really matters.

So yes, saying no takes muscle. But it can be done. And the best part is that once you get there, you realize that this no is also a " Yes " to yourself. And that remains the most important thing.