The one who learned to love herself a little more every day
Learning to love yourself is a bit like starting something new: it may seem difficult at first, but in the end, that's what makes it worthwhile. Because the reality is, you don't have to be perfect to love yourself, let alone to be happy. You look in the mirror and maybe you see a few dark circles under your eyes or a pimple that's decided to invite itself to the party. But so what? These little "details" are part of who you are and make you unique.
When you stop striving for perfection, you free yourself from the constant pressure of wanting everything to be absolutely perfect. So yes, your dark circles may be a testament to your long days, but they're there to remind you that you're human. And what about skin acting up? That's just your body living, going through little struggles, but remaining resilient. In short, being perfect is a myth. Self-love is accepting your "imperfections" like badges of honor. And you have a whole bunch of badges to show off.
Next, let's talk a little about this famous self-care, this word that makes us dream and which sometimes seems so vague. But in reality, take care of yourself, it's not just about running yourself a bath with scented candles and a relaxing playlist (even if it feels good, we agree). It's also about taking a break when you need it, knowing how to say no to a plan that's weighing you down, and above all, accepting that it's totally okay not to be productive all the time. If you spend a day staying under the covers, without any guilt, then you're already doing a huge amount of work on yourself. Because self-love is also knowing how to tell yourself that you deserve a break.
It's high time to give you some high fives for the small victories. And even if they seem insignificant to you, they count! (In this regard, I invite you to read a master's book on personal development, Mel Robbins on the subject ) You survived a never-ending meeting or you didn't give in to buying useless things, There are no small victories, only victories. Celebrating these moments, even alone, is a proof of self-love. You are incredible, even when you don't feel up to it. And that's up to you to recognize. Even if the last time you gave yourself a high five, it was after you finally managed to get out of bed before noon on the weekend.
But, of course, there is one thing you have no control over: the gaze of others. And if you spend your time worrying about what people think of you, you're going to end up wasting a lot of energy for nothing. The truth is, most people are so busy thinking about their own reflection that they haven't even noticed the detail you're beating yourself up about. So, instead of getting lost in negative thoughts, take a moment to enjoy a cup of your favorite coffee or just sit and breathe. Just let go.
And finally, self-love is also knowing how to laugh at yourself. Yes, even when you end up making a big mistake (like sending an embarrassing message to the wrong person, yes it has happened to all of us). That is humility. It is laughing at yourself, accepting the blunders, and telling yourself that, ultimately, it is not the end of the world. Because, between us, everyone has their little blunders. No one is immune. So, be your own audience and laugh with yourself. It does not hurt anyone, and on the contrary, it brings you even closer to your true self.
Eventually, To love yourself is to accept who you are, with all your imperfections and peculiarities. You are beautiful exactly as you are, with your dark circles, your spots, your little weaknesses and your moments of doubt. If you can accept yourself unconditionally, you will see that self-love is not a goal to achieve, but a state of mind to cultivate every day. And believe me, even the moments when you feel less than great are part of the journey. So, be gentle with yourself, celebrate your small victories, and above all, make sure to never stop laughing at yourself. Because deep down, you are amazing even when you think you are not 🙂
