Why are some people unable to be single?

Following on from the articles about being single after 30, today we're talking about the complete opposite!

Indeed, who are these people who have one relationship after another, not allowing themselves to be single?

Is it due to too much love? or a narcissistic flaw?

Do you get carried away very quickly and imagine things as soon as you meet someone? Do you already see yourself at the altar with a guy who just smiled at you in the street? Are dating apps your best friends? You may have anuptaphobia.

Or the irrational fear of being single, of never finding a life partner or of seeing them leave.

Not to be confused with autophobia, which is the fear of loneliness.

This fear is shaped through situations of abandonment or social pressures.

CAUSES OF THIS FEAR

As I said above, this can be due to social pressures, being considered abnormal if you are alone, especially for women with the biological clock adding to this state of affairs.

Second cause can be emotional dependence, exacerbated attachment

We can also look back to our childhood, with situations like your parents' divorce, a traumatic separation. So, as we grow up, this induces this fear.

Finally, there may also be neurological disorders as causes of this irrational fear.

Another factor that can contribute to anuptophobia is being surrounded by people who are only in a relationship. After all, the other person is a mirror for the other person and you can quickly seem out of the ordinary in such an environment.

SYMPTOMS OF THIS FEAR

They are varied:

• unable to do things alone
• The fear of abandonment is very strong
• Plan everything in love
• Sticky
• Hates couples
• Lack of self-confidence, feels out of step with society, like an empty shell
• Constantly lacking connection, company
• Analyzes a received message, a meeting or a situation for hours
• Ready to do anything to be in a relationship. So, you don't listen to each other, and being in a relationship takes precedence over the quality of the relationship. We are here in the complete opposite of the maxim “It’s better to be alone than in bad company”
• Therefore to the point above, you are locking yourself into relationships that are not working
• Anxiety, loneliness, paranoia, jealousy etc.
• You are never the one to leave a relationship.

POSSIBLE SOLUTIONS

Here several therapies are possible as for any situation which has deep causes.

• Psychotherapy
• Hypnosis
• EFT
• EMDR
• Meditation

It is also about taking the time to understand the mistakes made in the past to avoid being attracted again to people who are not right for us.

The goal? To make informed future choices instead of instantly falling in love with the first person who comes along.

And who knows, maybe your future man/woman of your life is waiting for you at the end of the road?