While for some love is synonymous with happiness, for others it is the opposite...<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Indeed, from Greek \u201cphilosophy\u201d<\/em> which means "love<\/em>\u201d and Phobos for "fear<\/em>\u201d, philophobia is literally the fear of falling in love. While it can be an anxiety about love in general, this anxiety disorder is most often linked to a fear of commitment and romantic feelings.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Let's take a closer look at where this fear might come from, how it manifests itself in everyday life, and, above all, how to try to break free from it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The philophobe will thus arm himself with defense mechanisms by developing specific symptoms out of fear of abandonment and having his heart broken.<\/p>\n\n\n\n And these are not without consequences, often impacting the life of the person who suffers from them, of course, but also their partners.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The person who is afraid to love will only find faults in their partner (or invent them). <\/p>\n\n\n\n In this way, she finds her perfect justification for leaving and not going any further in the relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n She unconsciously sabotages her relationship because she then thinks it's best for her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n With his very marked fear of abandonment, the philophobe convinces himself that this relationship has no future and is heading for ruin, even before having really tried anything. When the relationship becomes more serious, he may suddenly withdraw by no longer responding to messages or by no longer investing in the relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n This protection technique helps him cope with a partner who becomes increasingly attached to him.<\/p>\n\n\n\n If there's one thing in life you can't control, it's your feelings.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The philophobe abhors this question of letting go.<\/p>\n\n\n\n He doesn't improvise, he organizes everything, and he continues to move forward tentatively in his relationship. He never lets himself be carried away at any moment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n His insecurity makes him seek reassurance and can quickly become stifling for a partner, often even creating arguments linked to jealousy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n This is done unconsciously to tire the other person, so that the latter ends the relationship on their own and thus proves them right.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Flight is common in this type of fear.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The philophobe will often tend to only go towards people, partner profiles with whom he has no chance of a common future.<\/p>\n\n\n\n He will then convince himself that if the relationship did not work, it is because the relationship was impossible.<\/p>\n\n\n\n It's a pattern we tend to repeat. Being attracted to bad profiles, narcissistic perverts, married men, bad boys, etc.<\/p>\n\n\n\n As long as this pattern is not identified and reprogrammed, the philophobe will continue to search and be attracted only to these bad profiles for him.<\/p>\n\n\n\n In some cases, philophobia causes physical effects such as:<\/p>\n\n\n\n Of course, we must first understand this type of fear, philophobia, and why we have it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Take an interest in your past relationships, define your pattern in all these relationships, your limiting belief that dominates these behaviors.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Relive these relationships.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Do you remember experiencing problems during one of these relationships, especially with a high school sweetheart? If you broke up, what was the reason for your breakup? <\/p>\n\n\n\n Are you afraid of being loved or of being hurt or of hurting someone?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Regaining self-confidence is obviously essential, even if it doesn't happen overnight.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Try to be more vulnerable because to love is to let down your guard and be less suspicious, which is essential to being more comfortable in love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n There are then different types of therapies to help you in depth to treat philophobia:<\/p>\n\n\n\n A cognitive therapy<\/strong> : This therapy will allow you to identify and understand the mental process that causes you to be afraid. The therapist will then help you practice techniques to overcome this mental process and replace it with another that will be more beneficial to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n For example, what if your romantic relationship didn't work out? Very often, we tend to magnify problems in our heads. So, when we have the opportunity to articulate the real consequences, we realize that ultimately a breakup (in the current scenario) is not the end of the world. It's simply the end of the relationship, not of your life or your ability to love or be loved.<\/p>\n\n\n\n A affective desensitization therapy<\/strong> : the patient is exposed to the object or situation of his fear, in this case romantic relationships, in order to desensitize him. Technology is sometimes used to simulate interactions, this helps prepare the patient for situations that may occur in real life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n There NLP<\/strong> (Neuro-linguistic Programming) or thehypnotherapy<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Finally, a lifestyle change<\/strong> can be an effective way to combat your fear. Relaxation techniques, exercises to learn how to control your emotions, and visualization strategies can be useful methods to combat your philophobia.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" If for some love is synonymous with happiness, for others it is quite the opposite... Indeed, from the Greek "philo" which means "love" and phobos for "fear", philophobia is literally, the fear of falling in love. If it can be an anxiety at the idea of loving in a general way, this anxiety disorder is most often linked to a fear of commitment and romantic feelings. Let's discover in a little more detail where it can come from, how this fear manifests itself on a daily basis. And above all how to try to detach oneself from it. ITS POSSIBLE ORIGINS The loss of a loved one or the divorce of parents can leave deep inner wounds. So, to avoid feeling again the pain associated with the distance or disappearance of someone close, these people sometimes adopt a cold and distant attitude. People who suffer from philophobia believe that by falling in love, they become weak. So to avoid losing control, they distance themselves from anyone who can trigger intimate emotions in them. We live in a world where everything is interchangeable. We want this, that, and right away. No more patience, we need everything, right away. We get bored quickly, technology makes it easier to meet people, people no longer want to waste time. The philophobe will thus arm themselves with defense mechanisms by developing specific symptoms out of fear of abandonment and having their heart broken. And these are not without consequences, often impacting the life of the person who suffers from it, of course, but also their partners. ITS SYMPTOMS Insisting on looking for the slightest flaw in their partner The person who is afraid of loving will only find flaws in their partner (or invent them). Thus, through this, they find their perfect justification for leaving and not going further in the relationship. They unconsciously sabotage their relationship because they then think that it is the best for them. Already planning the end of his story With his very marked fear of abandonment, the philophobe convinces himself that this relationship has no future and runs to his ruin, even before having really tried anything. He does not make any plans or plans for the future because he is convinced that it will not last, so he protects himself. Taking distance When the relationship becomes more serious, he can suddenly withdraw by no longer responding to messages, by no longer investing in the relationship. This protection technique helps him to cope with a partner who becomes more and more attached to him Trying to control everything If there is one thing in life that we cannot control, it is feelings. This question of letting go, the philophobe hates it. He does not improvise, organizes everything, and continues to move forward gropingly in his relationship. He never lets himself be carried away at any moment. Provoking arguments His insecurity makes him seek reassurance and can quickly become stifling for a partner. He may even create arguments linked to jealousy, often. This is done unconsciously to tire the other person, so that the latter ends the relationship on their own and thus proves him right. Running away is commonplace in this type of fear. Seeking impossible relationships, not good for him The philophobe will tend to often only go towards people, partner profiles with whom he has no chance of a common future. He will then convince himself that if the relationship did not work, it is because the relationship was impossible. This is a pattern that we tend to repeat. Being attracted to bad profiles, narcissistic perverts, married men, bad boys, etc. As long as this pattern is not identified and reprogrammed, the philophobe will continue to seek and be attracted only to these profiles that are bad for him. Possible physical reactions In some cases, philophobia causes physical effects such as: Intense feeling of panic, breathing problems and nausea Sweating a lot and having difficulty functioning normally Avoiding all situations of intimacy in the most acute cases. Indeed, because if sex can be acceptable for these people, love is not. HOW TO OVERCOME THIS FEAR? Of course, you must first understand this type of fear, philophobia, and why we have it. Take an interest in your old relationships, define your pattern in all these relationships, your limiting belief that dominates these behaviors. Immerse yourself in these relationships. You may remember having encountered problems during one of these relationships, especially with a childhood sweetheart? If you broke up, what was the reason for your breakup? Are you afraid of being loved or of being hurt or of hurting someone? Regaining self-confidence is essential, of course, even if it does not happen overnight. Try to be more vulnerable because loving is letting down your guard and being less suspicious, which is essential to being more comfortable in love. There are then different types of therapies to help you deeply treat philophobia: Cognitive therapy: this therapy will allow you to identify and understand the mental process that leads you to be afraid. The therapist will then help you put into practice techniques to overcome this mental process and replace it with another that will be more beneficial to you. For example, what would happen if your romantic relationship didn't work? Very often, we tend to amplify the problems in our heads. So, when we have the opportunity to articulate the real consequences, we realize that ultimately a breakup (in the present scenario) is not the end of the world. It is simply the end of the couple, not of your life or of your ability to love or be loved. Affective desensitization therapy: the patient is exposed to the object or situation of their fear, in this case romantic relationships, in order to desensitize them. Technology is sometimes used to simulate interactions, this helps prepare the patient for situations that may arise in real life. NLP (Neuro-linguistic Programming) or hypnotherapy. Finally, lifestyle changes can be an effective way to combat your fear. Relaxation techniques, exercises to learn how to control your emotions, and visualization strategies can be useful methods to combat your philophobia.<\/p>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":2188,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[21],"tags":[52,420,419,422,424,423,421],"class_list":["post-2182","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-billets-d-humeur","tag-amour","tag-peur-daimmer","tag-philophobie","tag-phobie","tag-symptomes-2","tag-therapies","tag-tomber-amoureux"],"yoast_head":"\nITS POSSIBLE ORIGINS<\/u><\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n
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He doesn't make any plans or plans for the future because he is convinced that it won't last, so he protects himself.<\/p>\n\n\n\nHOW TO OVERCOME THIS FEAR?<\/u><\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n