Have most of your relationships all had one thing in common: making you suffer?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Do you tend to be attracted to people who are sensitive and will hurt you?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Do you tend to give the benefit of the doubt for everything and anything, even the biggest stuff?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If attracting toxic people is a repeating pattern for you, I'm going to focus on why you attract these toxic personalities.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If I had to visualize this type of personality, I would represent it like the character of Vincent Cassel, impressive in the film My King<\/em> .<\/p>\n\n\n\n So why do you attract these types of profiles?<\/p>\n\n\n\n It's very simple to understand. We attract what we are, apparently.<\/p>\n\n\n\n If you have a fear of rejection, you will tend to attract people who are unable to accept others as they are. Thus reinforcing the fear of rejection in others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n If you believe that no one is trustworthy, you will only meet people who will confirm this idea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n So you lock yourself into a vicious circle of limiting beliefs. And by attracting people because of them, you will even strengthen them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n These are the same patterns here that repeat themselves, the same pattern continually.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Johanne Rosenblum, psychologist, explains it very well in the columns of Au F\u00e9minin. "What attracts you to this type of atypical, mysterious, authoritarian, dark or toxic personality is also what reminds you of yourself and your history. This is not a coincidence."<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Certainly the person will be different in each new relationship. However, they will also have a different way of coming to hurt you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n With this great lack of confidence and self-esteem, you are a " prey "<\/em> ideal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n These people detect a flaw in you that they insert themselves into. All the while turning it against you in a sneaky way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n They are especially looking for people who want to be loved at all costs, who don't know how to say no and BAM!<\/p>\n\n\n\n You want to please everyone, assessing your worth and allowing yourself to exist through the eyes of others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n But it is not by accepting everything from others that you will be loved more.<\/p>\n\n\n\n You condition yourself to love someone who is not right for you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n And then, in the end, your whole life you will evolve with yourself so it's time to start loving yourself (even if it's easy to write I totally agree)<\/p>\n\n\n\n But already being aware of your patterns is a first step towards change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n You are someone who is empathetic, altruistic, caring, with great listening skills.<\/p>\n\n\n\n So these people naturally come to you for these qualities. Coming to seek answers to their questions, heal their wounds, or take advantage of your kindness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Because these toxic people love to talk about their lives for hours on end. They are therefore attracted to people who are willing to listen to them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n But paradoxically, they can often ignore any advice you can give them. All they want to do is listen to themselves talk about their lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n This character trait makes you always seek to help those in difficulty. These people will use this to approach you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n So being a good Samaritan is OK, but by protecting yourself and not forgetting yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Because it's definitely not up to you to heal other people's flaws.<\/p>\n\n\n\n With these toxic people, you then find yourself questioning yourself, having doubts about yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cWhat did I do to deserve this?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n You inevitably blame yourself for not having seen the red flags earlier or for not having listened to your intuition from the start.<\/p>\n\n\n\n There are no secrets, there will be things you will have to work on<\/p>\n\n\n\n Through introspection work to be done with the help of a therapist (psychotherapy, hypnosis, sophrology, etc.) or a personal coach for example.<\/p>\n\n\n\n There are all kinds of therapies these days and there is no shame in seeking help. On the contrary, it is healthy to want to move forward in life and get rid of your internal blockages for a life more aligned with what you really want to go towards.<\/p>\n\n\n\n This will help heal your emotional and affective wounds, transform your limiting beliefs. In short, reprogram your brain for a more serene future \ud83d\ude09<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Have the majority of your relationships all had the same thing in common: making you suffer? Do you tend to be attracted very often only to raw nerves who will hurt you? Do you tend to give the benefit of the doubt for everything and anything, even the biggest things? If attracting toxic people is a repetitive pattern for you, I will focus on the reasons why you attract these toxic personalities. If I had to visualize this type of personality, I would represent it like the character of Vincent Cassel, impressive in the film Mon Roi. So why do you attract this kind of profiles? YOUR PAST WOUNDS RESURE ACTING LIKE A MIRROR It's very simple to understand. We attract what we are, it seems. If you have a fear of rejection, you will tend to attract people who are incapable of accepting others as they are. Thus reinforcing the fear of rejection in others. If you think that no one is trustworthy, you will only meet people who will reinforce this idea. Thus, you lock yourself into a vicious circle due to your limiting beliefs. And by attracting people because of these beliefs, you will even reinforce them. These are the same patterns that are repeated here, the same pattern continually. Johanne Rosenblum, psychologist, explains it very well in the columns of Au F\u00e9minin. "What attracts people in this atypical, mysterious, authoritarian, dark or toxic personality type is also what reminds you of yourself and your history. This is not a coincidence." Certainly, the person will be different in each new relationship. However, they will also have a different way of hurting you. YOU CRUELLY LACK SELF-LOVE AND DO NOT KNOW YOUR OWN WORTH With this great lack of confidence and self-esteem, you are an ideal "prey." These people detect a flaw in you into which they insert themselves. While slyly turning them against you. They will notably look for people who want to be loved at all costs, who do not know how to say no and BAM! You want to please everyone, evaluating your value and allowing yourself to exist through the eyes of others. But it is not by accepting everyone from others that you will be loved more You condition yourself to love a person who does not correspond to you. And then, in the end, all your life you will evolve with yourself so it is time to start loving yourself (even if it is easy to write I totally agree) But already being aware of your patterns is a first step to change. YOU WANT TO SAVE THE WORLD & YOU ARE A GOOD LISTENER You are someone empathetic, altruistic, caring, with great listening skills. These people therefore naturally come to you for these qualities. By coming to find answers to their questions, heal their wounds, or take advantage of your kindness. Because these toxic people love to talk about their lives for hours. They are therefore attracted to people willing to listen to them. But paradoxically, they can often ignore all the advice you can give them. All they want is to listen to themselves talk about their lives. This character trait makes you always seek to help those in difficulty. These people will use this to approach you. So being a good Samaritan is OK, but by protecting yourself and not forgetting yourself. Because it is definitely not up to you to heal the flaws of others. With these toxic people, you then find yourself questioning yourself, having doubts about yourself "What did I do to deserve this?" You inevitably blame yourself for not having seen the red flags earlier or for not having known how to listen to your intuition from the start. So how can you stop this vicious circle? There are no secrets, there will be points on which you will have to work through introspection work to be done with the help of a therapist (psychotherapy, hypnosis, sophrology etc.) or a personal coach for example. There are all kinds of therapies these days and there is no shame in going for a consultation. On the contrary, it is healthy to want to move forward in life and get rid of your internal blockages for a life more aligned with what you really want to go towards. This will help heal your emotional and affective wounds, transform your limiting beliefs. In short, reprogram your brain for a more serene future \ud83d\ude09<\/p>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":2028,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[21],"tags":[358,359,360,362,357,361],"class_list":["post-2025","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-billets-d-humeur","tag-amour-propre","tag-attraction","tag-dependance","tag-mal-etre","tag-personnes-toxiques","tag-souffrance"],"yoast_head":"\nYOUR PAST WOUNDS RESURRECT, ACTING LIKE A MIRROR<\/h4>\n\n\n\n
YOU ARE SEVERELY LACK OF SELF-ESTEEM AND DON'T KNOW YOUR OWN WORTH<\/h4>\n\n\n\n
YOU WANT TO SAVE THE WORLD & YOU ARE A GOOD LISTENER<\/h4>\n\n\n\n
So how can we stop this vicious circle?<\/h5>\n\n\n\n